Can money be a love language? – What to do if your partner gifts you cash
In a time of soaring inflation, love may just come at a cost. Money is considered important for any relationship—romantic, business or familial—to survive or thrive. But having it as a love language where romantic partners surprise each other with wads of cash is another thing entirely.
Thoughtful gifts have always been in existence. And the beauty of romance lies in sharing with the one you love and call your own. Definitely, it is up to the people in a romantic relationship to agree on what they would appreciate the most from each other.
That is why there are different love languages to accommodate various preferences and choices. However, in a situation where money is used as a way to appreciate and show affection to a significant other, there are some considerations to be made.
Should money then be recognised as a love language? If it is used between partners with conflicting love languages, how can the situation be managed so that both parties can reach a middle ground?
Some of the things you can do if your partner gifts you cash include:
Talk to them
Granted, you’d prefer they become more hands-on around the house or wake you up with daily words of affirmation. But if you don’t tell them that you value other things just as much or perhaps even more than the cash they gift you, they will never think they need to adjust.
Appreciate them
It costs nothing to say a ‘thank you’. Even if it’s not your cup of tea, the thought also counts. People tend to spend money on whom they love and/or respect. And if your partner—who is caring and considerate in so many other ways—gifts you cash, don’t take it as an indictment of your relationship.
Document It
It’s very easy to get comfortable in a relationship and forget the little gestures that go a long way in making it a successful one over an extended period of time. If you don’t fancy cash, still document it. It helps you to remember the things that can easily skip your mind so that you don’t take your partner for granted.
Listen to them
It’s a relationship because both of you are in it. So, hear them out. What reasons do they give for gifting you cash? They may have a cute, little note attached to it. Or they add a bouquet of flowers but somehow, money steals the shine because it is, well, money. So, let them also tell you what they think. And both of you can come to a mutual agreement.
Every relationship is unique. Find what works for you and drown out the noise.
